Monday, July 25, 2011

Another Light Has Dimmed

I have been an Amy Winehouse fan since I first heard her music.  It was before I heard it on the radio, but through the avenues where people like me learn of artists before they make it 'big'.

Have you ever heard her sing?  Not the songs you ever heard on the radio, but the ones that they don't play..the ones that didn't make her famous.  Have you heard her gutteral voice sing lyrics that should have been coming from a soulful singer who had been around the block a time or two?  Probably not.  But I am not surprised.

Most people probably only know her from the headlines of her in and out of rehab/drug addiction/antics...because as they say, people are more interested in tragedy than talent.  And people love to hate, finger point and make fun of...

Over the weekend, I found it completely disheartening that so many people chose to scoff and make light of yet 'another junkie dead, because thats what junkies do'.  That was just one of the comments I saw, so JB not calling you out, but it struck me as the most offensive.  I guess the world is a better place for it?  What a fucking joke.  The world is still as fucked up and Amy dying didnt make it any better...

Coming from a background of substance abuse myself, of which only a handful of you know the degree of that, I find this tragic that people are so heartless and cruel to dismiss another 'junkie'.  Are people so damn perfect that they have elevated themselves to such a peak where you just look down on others?

Do you realize that when you say things about junkies, or alcoholics, gays, lesbians, whatever, that you are probably offending someone, if not multiple people with your less than stellar behavior?  Makes me sick.  And actually right now it brings tears to my eyes.  I wonder, had I not made it out alive, would people have thought "oh just another junkie".  Good riddance.  So what if I am not famous, and so what if you know me, and think 'its different; I know you..'  No.  Its not different and you don't know me apparently.

I have to say, at least once a week, I find that I like one or two people a little less than I use to because of their igorance and lack of tolerance.  You stupid little minded people.  I have no problem saying that either.

I would say that I wish I could be as high on a pedastal as you are, but I would be lying.  I have no desire to be where you are or to have my mind full of crap and holier than thou thoughts.

So Amy, I hope that you have found peace in the afterlife, as you are, a child of God, regardless of your choices in life.  Let the haters hate.  Godspeed.

And lastly, I found this letter that Russell Brand wrote "to" Amy after hearing of her death to be something of art itself.  We should all be so lucky to have such understanding...but I guess until you've been there you just would never understand.  But yet you judge....

In his (Russell Brand) letter he urges those who know addicts to help them before it’s too late. Russell, a former heroin addict, who has been sober for nine years, posted the following on his blog:

When you love someone who suffers from the disease of addiction you await the phone call. There will be a phone call. The sincere hope is that the call will be from the addict themselves, telling you they’ve had enough, that they’re ready to stop, ready to try something new. Of course though, you fear the other call, the sad nocturnal chime from a friend or relative telling you it’s too late, she’s gone.

Frustratingly it’s not a call you can ever make it must be received. It is impossible to intervene.
The moving letter continues…

I’ve known Amy Winehouse for years. When I first met her around Camden she was just some twit in a pink satin jacket shuffling round bars with mutual friends, most of whom were in cool Indie bands or peripheral Camden figures Withnail-ing their way through life on impotent charisma. Carl Barrat told me that “Winehouse” (which I usually called her and got a kick out of cos it’s kind of funny to call a girl by her surname) was a jazz singer, which struck me as a bizarrely anomalous in that crowd. To me with my limited musical knowledge this information placed Amy beyond an invisible boundary of relevance; “Jazz singer? She must be some kind of eccentric” I thought. I chatted to her anyway though, she was after all, a girl, and she was sweet and peculiar but most of all vulnerable.

I was myself at that time barely out of rehab and was thirstily seeking less complicated women so I barely reflected on the now glaringly obvious fact that Winehouse and I shared an affliction, the disease of addiction. All addicts, regardless of the substance or their social status share a consistent and obvious symptom; they’re not quite present when you talk to them. They communicate to you through a barely discernible but un-ignorable veil. Whether a homeless smack head troubling you for 50p for a cup of tea or a coked-up, pinstriped exec foaming off about his “speedboat” there is a toxic aura that prevents connection. They have about them the air of elsewhere, that they’re looking through you to somewhere else they’d rather be. And of course they are. The priority of any addict is to anaesthetise the pain of living to ease the passage of the day with some purchased relief.

From time to time I’d bump into Amy she had good banter so we could chat a bit and have a laugh, she was “a character” but that world was riddled with half cut, doped up chancers, I was one of them, even in early recovery I was kept afloat only by clinging to the bodies of strangers so Winehouse, but for her gentle quirks didn’t especially register.

Then she became massively famous and I was pleased to see her acknowledged but mostly baffled because I’d not experienced her work and this not being the 1950’s I wondered how a “jazz singer” had achieved such cultural prominence. I wasn’t curious enough to do anything so extreme as listen to her music or go to one of her gigs, I was becoming famous myself at the time and that was an all consuming experience. It was only by chance that I attended a Paul Weller gig at the Roundhouse that I ever saw her live.

I arrived late and as I made my way to the audience through the plastic smiles and plastic cups I heard the rolling, wondrous resonance of a female vocal. Entering the space I saw Amy on stage with Weller and his band; and then the awe. The awe that envelops when witnessing a genius. From her oddly dainty presence that voice, a voice that seemed not to come from her but from somewhere beyond even Billie and Ella, from the font of all greatness. A voice that was filled with such power and pain that it was at once entirely human yet laced with the divine. My ears, my mouth, my heart and mind all instantly opened. Winehouse. Winehouse? Winehouse! That twerp, all eyeliner and lager dithering up Chalk Farm Road under a back-combed barnet, the lips that I’d only seen clenching a fishwife fag and dribbling curses now a portal for this holy sound. So now I knew. She wasn’t just some hapless wannabe, yet another pissed up nit who was never gonna make it, nor was she even a ten-a-penny-chanteuse enjoying her fifteen minutes. She was a fucking genius.

Shallow fool that I am I now regarded her in a different light, the light that blazed down from heaven when she sang. That lit her up now and a new phase in our friendship began. She came on a few of my TV and radio shows, I still saw her about but now attended to her with a little more interest. Publicly though, Amy increasingly became defined by her addiction. Our media though is more interested in tragedy than talent, so the ink began to defect from praising her gift to chronicling her downfall. The destructive personal relationships, the blood soaked ballet slippers, the aborted shows, that youtube madness with the baby mice. In the public perception this ephemeral tittle-tattle replaced her timeless talent. This and her manner in our occasional meetings brought home to me the severity of her condition. Addiction is a serious disease; it will end with jail, mental institutions or death. I was 27 years old when through the friendship and help of Chip Somers of the treatment centre, Focus12 I found recovery, through Focus I was introduced to support fellowships for alcoholics and drug addicts which are very easy to find and open to anybody with a desire to stop drinking and without which I would not be alive.

Now Amy Winehouse is dead, like many others whose unnecessary deaths have been retrospectively romanticised, at 27 years old. Whether this tragedy was preventable or not is now irrelevant. It is not preventable today. We have lost a beautiful and talented woman to this disease. Not all addicts have Amy’s incredible talent. Or Kurt’s or Jimi’s or Janis’s, some people just get the affliction.

All we can do is adapt the way we view this condition, not as a crime or a romantic affectation but as a disease that will kill. We need to review the way society treats addicts, not as criminals but as sick people in need of care.

We need to look at the way our government funds rehabilitation. It is cheaper to rehabilitate an addict than to send them to prison, so criminalisation doesn’t even make economic sense. Not all of us know someone with the incredible talent that Amy had but we all know drunks and junkies and they all need help and the help is out there. All they have to do is pick up the phone and make the call. Or not. Either way, there will be a phone call.

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